Saturday, March 6
Should we ever give up all of our eggs?
So, today I was watching some videos on YouTube from people that I'm subscribed to and I came across this video by ItsMsHeatherNicole called Heather and the Eggs. What can I say? It inspired me because her line of thinking is mirroring my own right about now.
In case you don't want to watch her video (it's 15 minutes long) here's a brief summary. She basically draws a metaphor from a common saying: don't put all your eggs in one basket. We all know what that means, right? Keep your options open, basically. She then relates this to love which is the part that gets me the most... Like me, she's a person that can't put her eggs in more than one basket at a time... it's just impossible.
Maybe I should give my definition of "eggs"... to me, eggs are parts of yourself... eggs are your love... not the verb, but the noun (lol the nerd in me is coming out!). When I let you see the real me, that's me giving you an egg. When I introduce you to my friends and family, that's me giving you an egg. When I decide (and tell you that I've decided) that I want to spend my life with you, that's me giving you an egg (more like three eggs!).
My personal story?
I have decent eggs. In fact, my eggs are pretty damned good. But I always make the mistake of giving up too many eggs. And I know, I know, when I meet the right person, it won't be a mistake, giving them all my eggs... but up until this point in my life, it HAS been a mistake, you know? So, not to be cocky... ok... maybe a little but not really... but I'm always "the one that got away." I've had two serious relationships in my life and both of my exes have as much as told me that. But the part that confuses me is... if I'm "the one that got away" then why did you let me? What I'm about to say is really really sensitive for me, and something that I know I need to figure out before I enter another relationship but... both of these serious relationships ended because my exes cheated on me. And ironically, they both left me for the person that they cheated with! (ok, neither of them would ever actually admit that they left me for "the other women" but if you cheat on someone, which causes your relationship to eventually dissolve, and not even 2-3 months later, you're in a relationship with the person you cheated with... that's basically what happened...). Now, I'm definitely not one of those "why me? what's wrong with me?" type of girls but... I still have to consider that the same thing happened with two completely different people! Could it be because I gave them both all of my eggs and they knew it? Could it be that giving up all your eggs makes ppl lose interest? Or could it just be that I gave all my eggs to people that did not cherish them and, quite frankly weren't able and ready to care for them? Last question: Should we EVER give up all of our eggs?
I don't know the answers to any of those questions... but this video sure did help me to focus during my hiatus from sex, dating, and relationships!
I'll keep you guys posted... and if anyone knows the answer to any of these questions, don't be afraid to sh, liare!!!
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