Saturday, August 4

Seriously? A Setback?

Ugh. I apologize in advance for this post's lack of direction...

I am definitely writing this with a heavy heart and a head full of conditioner.

Where to begin?

Guys, I'm 97% sure that I am having a setback... and while I HATE to post this without pics (there will be tons of pics with my next relaxer when I can assess the damage accurately) I just have to vent. While I feel VERY fortunate that after almost 3 years (wow... has it been that long?) of healthy hair care practices, this is my first alleged setback, I still can't help my anger, frustration, and overall feeling of helplessness.

Ok... let me explain what the heck is going on. If you follow me on Facebook, you would have seen my status update about the thinning in the rear, right quadrant of my head. The hair on the left-rear side of my head falls past APL in the front. On the right side, at this point, it looks to be at about 1/2" to 1" above APL in the front... a clear disparity. In addition to being shorter, the hair is pretty much see-through... which the other side is not. Grrr! Just thinking about it makes me upset! And what makes is worse is I have NO clue what happened! At all! It's sooo freaking weird that it's only in one section of my head... I didn't even REALLY notice the thinning until it was too late (though I've been complaining about feeling like my ends were thinning for a while...).


I apologize for the crazy post, like I said, I had to get it out. It seems like my hair and I are going through a very rough patch... I just hope it's fixable.

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  1. That happened to me before. I had thinner hair on one side in the back. I was so upset about it too. I was racking my brain trying to figure out where it all started and what happened. After checking past pictures I realized it was likely due to breakage in the back (uneven processing with my first couple of self-relaxer attempts). I've been trimming each year to even it up. It sucks to have setbacks, and I hope that you don't have one. But if you do, you'll get through it. We're all here rooting for you!

    1. I never thought of that... I will say that I am not as careful with my relaxer applications in the back (as far as over-lapping, etc) as I am in the front... also, the back tends to be under-processes because I apply the relaxer there last... sigh.

      Thanks for this post, Kim... I think this may be what happened since all this thinning has happened since my last relaxer...

  2. Awww this is so unfortunate, hopefully you will be pleasantly surprised when you get your next relaxer, but if not I'm positive you will get through it :)

    1. Aww thanks... I can only pray... but I'm pretty sure the damage is done...

  3. Setbacks suck, but they are set-ups for a come-up!
    I hope that you are able to sit down and really figure out what happened. That's why blogging is good. You can go back and look at your posts like a record and see where/when/how things may have changed and assess from there. I am still in the middle of this process now!
    Good luck with figuring it out, making changes, and making things better.

    1. Thanks Brittany. I am definitely trying to figure out what happened... as soon as I do, I will share it of course so that other hair girls won't make the same mistake... =(

    2. GO head Brittney with that one! set-ups for a come-up -- Ah-kay! luvs it! I'm also at a set-back stage and I don't know why...grrrr b/c my hair was doing so well. So my set-up for the come-up, is protective styling with a wig and going IN with M&S and kicking up my DC mixes a few notches.Hope that brings the LIFE back in my hair.

      I look forward to seeing the pics Shika of your come-up.

  4. UGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Sorry to hear about this! You know I can relate, I talked enough about my thin ends debacle enough and you always "listened"!!! As much as I empathize with being upset, as someone who is nearly completely recovered from a setback, your hair will be better than ever once you baby and trim it back to health! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

    1. Sigh... I think I'm reserving a full meltdown for when I see the damage on freshly relaxed hair... =(

  5. Do you start your relaxer on that back section of your head usually? the hair on that side could have been a little over processed as a result and would inevitably break :( Your hair is amazing and your comeback will be too!



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