Thursday, December 27

Relaxer Day + Setback Update + TRIM!

Look at all that NG!!
I finally relaxed my hair last night at 34 weeks post!

Every time I stretch for a long time I say it's my last stretch and this time was no different. But let's get right into it!

My pre-relaxer tools
The process for this relaxer day was the same as any other. The difference, however, was in the fact that I used a no-lye relaxer for the first time in my HHJ. After much deliberation, I decided on the Optimum Care Salon Collection No-Lye Relaxer in regular strength. I sectioned my hair into 4 and pre-parted my hair, as always. I also used the pre-relaxer treatment in addition to my regular relaxer base to protect my previously-relaxed ends.
I took a total of 25 minutes to relax my head from initial application to rinse. I DC'd with KeraCare Humecto mixed with Hemp Seed Oil I used pretty much everything inside the kit except the oil moisturizer.

My uneven texture... I will possibly need to
do a corrective relaxer in 4-6 weeks...
After DCing, I examined my hair to find that I did not smooth the relaxer far enough down my strands which resulted in a that was straight at the root, very textured in the middle, and straight at the end. Even still, I roller-set my hair with gray magnetic rollers and straighted out the under-processed portion with my flat iron. The results were super cute (and even fooled me for a second, with all the curls, that my setback wasn't as bad as I thought it was!

My hair, curled, pre-trim
But, I was wrong! After my relaxer, I got to see the full extent of my setback, and guys it was bad! I had a whole entire section of my hair that was pretty-much nonexistent! I knew it was going to suck cutting it but it was so hard! I used ZanAndRob's method of evening up the ends although I will need to go through and dust the rest of my hair over the next week. I really needed to cut more than I did but once I got to APL I refused to cut it any shorter! I thought I could be strong but I just couldn't let go of that last 2-3"! Anyway, enough jibber jabber-here are the pics of the trim (and my end-of-the-year length pics)!!

Before trim and after trim ... I can't wait to get back to my pre-trim length with even, thick ends!
(as you can see there is still a lot more that needs to go!)
I'm APL...... STILL =(
Excuse my fugg face! The front post-trim (I also
cut my own bangs in the front for shape)

My baby pony-tail!
So overall, relaxer day went as well as expected. Regardless of the shorter hair, I'm glad that I can style my own hair for now (before I get back into PSing in a couple of months!). And I am glad to say that I will be trimming my own hair from here on out (unless I want to get my hair cut in a specific style!)

To those who have suffered setbacks, were you happy to get rid of the unhealthy ends or were you sad to lose your length? Weigh in!

Until next time,

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  1. You're hair looks great despite the set back. I'm sure by your next relaxer you will still be able to remain at APL even with a trim. I had the same underprocessing issue, but by keeping my hair stretched(with roller sets or blow drying) it wasn't a huge issue.
    Anyway., your hair is beautiful and I have seen it progress so much throughout the years! KUTGW!!

  2. Blessed Tresses (Robin)December 27, 2012 at 8:30 PM

    I wasn't really happy about getting rid of my unhealthy ends, but after I did my hair looked so much healthier. I was MBL and ended up back at right under BSL, but I know it will grow back and be healthy this time.

  3. I've only had to do it once and it sucked but my hair wasn't super long yet. Heck it's still not super long. Plus like Robin said, once the trim was done my hair looked fuller and healthier and by the next relaxer it was all back. I'm just enjoying the growth and get healthy phase. If I was BSL though I might be shattered to trim it.

  4. So true! Once you have to cut that much you tend to do what it takes to not have to do it again.

  5. I don't think I'll be back where I was until the end of 2013, especially considering that I have more to trim! I agree though, it looks much better without those added dead ends (and will look even better onceI trim the rest!)

  6. Your hair will be back in no time!!! Believe it! At least you have the knowledge/tools to keep your hair growing healthy and strong.

  7. Your hair looks great! And don't fret because APL is long!

    I only cut up to APL like you did even though I should have cut more and I wasn't happy at first. But after the cut I felt so much better about how my hair hung and I ended up trimming the unevenness little by little over time.

  8. Sorry to read about your setback. What do you think caused it? I don't know if you mentioned it in your post. You will get your length back before you know it.

  9. Aww thanks for your positivity! Yes, after three years in my HHJ I know what to do, it's just a matter of having the discipline to do it!

  10. Yes, because the front is long still, it still "feels" long! I read your tutorial on how to self-trim! But I decided to go the blunt route until I get rid of all the thin ends! When is the last time you've gotten a cut/trim at the salon? I think I'm done with that!

  11. Honestly I am not fully sure... I think just overall neglect over the summer took it's toll (I literally went for several months just wearing a bun and not staying up on my regimen)

  12. How cool! I haven't gotten a salon trim since 2009 and I don't see myself going to get one ever again either. That method makes it so easy to trim your hair yourself. I'm glad it worked well for you too.

  13. Not for nothing, that ponytail is thick and lovely! I understand EXACTLY what you mean about not wanting to sacrifice the length you've earned. Incremental trims will help you retain most of your length while getting rid of what has to go. I, too, always claim that "this will be my last stretch." I'm going back to stretching every 3-4 months in 2013. I can't remember the last time I hit BSB so, while I have ends to get rid of, I'm not hacking off anything at once. It seems we're setback sisters and I know we're going to overcome together!

  14. Hi there! Newbie here! Your hair looks great and trust me, that ponytail is not a baby! It's got some hang!

    May I ask if you know what caused your setback? Good luck in 2013!

  15. We surely will overcome our setbacks and have better hair for it!

  16. Hi hun I went thru a setback and I had to cut more than 2in but in the end it was all for the best. Your hair looks good lol

  17. Girl, you know I've been there. And let's not forget APL IS STILL LONG HAIR!

  18. Yes, it is... it doesn't feel long though lmao but I am grateful for every strand of hair on my head, I'll say that!



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